Grief Recovery Guidance Center logo

John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve


Ask The Grief Experts

It’s very difficult to help someone who does not want or ask for help (Published 3-27-2012)

Q:

On April 27th, 2010, my 19-year-old brother passed away in a car accident. I am 24 and have a two year old son. I feel as though I lost my brother and my mother on the same day. Although we lost the same person, our grief is no where near the same. I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child, but my mother's grieving is the same today as it was on that day.

With the one year mark approaching, I am wondering what i can do to encourage her to grieve in a more healthy way. She insists on calling my son by the nickname she had for my brother, something she did not do before his death. I want to protect my son from expectations he cannot possibly achieve, but also support my mother's grieving process. She is still blaming anything and anyone for his death and talks about him at the most inappropriate times. I am not afraid to talk about him, nor do I avoid doing so. But she brings up memories that are completely unrelated to the topic at hand quite frequently. How can I help her?


« Prev Question Next Question »       View Q&A Archive »

Ask The Grief Experts Archives



Find Local Support

If you or someone important to you wants help with grief: Look for a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist℠ in your community. The Grief Recovery Institute ® trains and mentors Certified Grief Recovery Specialists℠ throughout the United States & Canada.

Workshops & Training Schedule

The Grief Recovery Institute ® offers Certification Training programs for those who wish to help grievers.

    April 2017
    Indianapolis, IN - April 7-10, 2017
    Princeton, NJ - April 7-10, 2017
    Reading, Berkshire, England - April 21-24, '17
    Denver, CO - April 21-24, 2017
    Vancouver, BC, Canada - Apr 28-May 1,'17
    San Francisco, CA - Apr 28-May 1,'17
    May 2017
    Seattle, WA - May 5-8, 2017
    Dallas, TX - May 5-8, 2017
    Milwaukee, WI - May 19-22, 2017
    Torquay, Devon, England - May 19-22, '17
    Regina, SK, Canada - May 19-22,'17
    Los Angeles, CA - May 19-22, 2017

View All Dates »