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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve


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Not informed about her mother's death until six monght later, she struggles to feel complete. (Published 12/24/2013)

Q:

I lost my mother in April of this year. But I didn't find out until September. Her husband took her away from her family about 7 years ago. We didn't know where she was. He didn't notify any family members when she died. I'm having a hard time trying to find closure to this.

We had a memorial service for her and visited her grave-site, but it just seems to get harder every day. The only peace that I can find now is that I know she is in heaven and he is out of her life.

He buried her in a military cemetery in a different town then where she had died because it was free, even though she had a burial site close to her children.

I just need to find some type of closure for me and my siblings.


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